31 Aug Build Each Other Up
Working with children with special needs, I often have the opportunity to observe life from a unique perspective.
My clients (AKA the precious children I work with in their homes), their parents, and their teachers are constantly working hard to get up to speed with the rest of the world.
Here’s what I mean. The kids are trying to keep up with their peers, working double-time to learn strategies so that they “fit in,” and constantly practicing skills so that this crazy, confusing, mixed-up world makes just a little bit of sense.
Parents are also working double-time to help their kids catch up. They are having to think 5-steps ahead to prepare for outings, make a million different meals at dinnertime, balance home-time, work-time, me-time, and autism.
And then we have Special Education Teachers. They are constantly explaining their students’ outbursts and meltdowns to other children and teachers, providing extra creative strategies to help their students succeed, and trying to maintain a balance of work-time, home-time, me-time, and the ever-changing world of autism.
It is not easy, people. It is not easy. But, I don’t have to tell you that. You are living it.
I am thinking more and more these days though about what we can do to support each other. How can we build each other up just a little bit more, since we really are all in this together?
Some days it can be exhausting. It can be a battle of internal wills just to put one foot in front of the other. I see it. I witness it. I live it.
We are part of a tremendous community and we have an opportunity to do and be something HUGE for each other.
I wish that I could climb to the top of a mountain with a megaphone and shout this for the world to hear.
Let’s support each other. Let’s ask others, including parents, teachers, and children, what can I do for you to make life easier for you. How can I build you up instead of watching you fall apart? What can we do so that we are helping each other?
I know that you often need a helping hand, and you feel frustrated and exhausted, because it seems like the world doesn’t care and doesn’t want to help you. I get it.
I present you with a personal challenge. The next time you are feeling in a rut, reach out to someone. Say to them, “I need your help. I am feeling defeated, and I could really use your support to help hold me up right now.” You can even send them this blog post. Heck, send it to them now so that they are prepared for that moment (and there will be that moment), when you ask them for help.
And the next time you see someone struggling, no matter friend or foe, I challenge you to extend your hand and say, “I see that you need some help. What can I do to support you?”
With peace and love to my autism community,
P.S. Do you have a challenge reaching out and asking for help? Please share below.