Making your child feel good

dad_son_with_autism_high_fiveLet’s face it, life for your child can be challenging. He or she is constantly receiving commands, demands, requests, instructions, and directions. He is trying to navigate through all of the rules, make sense of the world around him, and figure out where and when to apply what he has learned. It can be overwhelming, to say the least.

Sometimes, we (parents and teachers) get so stuck in our daily routines and helping our kids follow expectations, that we totally forget to positively praise them for trying and working so hard.

As exhausting as it is for you as the adult to constantly remind your child to listen and follow your directions, it can be doubly exhausting for your child. We need to remember to reward, praise, and reinforce positive behavior. Not just that, but we also need to remember to praise children for trying.

Try this:

  1. For every rule or direction that you give your child, provide him with two positive remarks.
  2. Find opportunities throughout your day to positively reinforce your child.
  3. When praising him, be specific. For example, instead of saying, “Great job!” try saying, “Great job putting that puzzle together all by yourself.”
  4. Reinforcement can come in many forms: verbal praise, a high five, special time with you, choosing a favorite meal or restaurant, or something tangible like a toy.

Positive praise will help your child feel good. It will encourage appropriate behavior, because your child will like the feeling of being positively reinforced. You will feel good, because not only are you helping your child to feel happy, but praising others boosts your own mood as well. You are making the world a brighter place for both you and your sweet child.

I am proud of you for taking the time to read this post today. Now go find something awesome to praise your child for, and have a beautiful day!

  • Quiana godinez
    Posted at 11:51h, 14 April Reply

    Awesome and agreed. Thank you for this article and reminder.
    I just included my fiancée on this and we will take this into our daily lives.

    • Jennifer Lingle
      Posted at 11:53h, 14 April Reply

      Oh that’s great! I am so happy that you found this post helpful.

  • Julie Telles
    Posted at 13:38h, 14 April Reply

    Thank you for that reminder 🙂

    We are from Pearsall Tx. 78061 Is there a place close by we can go as far as classes , get second opinion ? we really need help for my grandson he is 4 years old .

    Julie Telles

    • Jennifer Lingle
      Posted at 19:41h, 14 April Reply

      Hi Julie, please email me at and I can answer your questions there.

  • Franca Salame
    Posted at 17:21h, 14 April Reply

    Great post and it’s good to go for all children.

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