15 Mar When Others Judge Your Parenting Style
Raising a child with autism is hard enough. When you get the evil eye from family members, people in stores, or even friends, it can be pretty devastating.
If you are already doing everything in your power to help your child, and someone you know and love comments on your parenting style or your child’s behavior, you may feel lost and alone.
Here are some things that you can do to rise above it all, tune it out, and keep on keeping on.
- Believe in yourself. You are doing the best you can. You love your child, you know your child, and you know what’s best for your child. Of course, you may need some help and assistance along the way, which is totally understandable, but you do not need to listen to those who have no experience with autism. Shoot, you don’t even need to listen to people who do have experience with autism. Nobody has been in your exact shoes, and no one has lived your life quite like you have. So, believe in yourself.
- Watch this video, Why your critics aren’t the ones who count, by vulnerability researcher Brene Brown. It might just empower you and give you a bit more compassion towards your own personal self.
- If you feel up to it when you are out in public and are receiving nasty stares, pass out a little card that says My Child Has Autism. Instead of staring, please ask me what you can do to help. For more information, go to (insert your favorite autism information website).
- Recognize and understand that everyone is going through something that we know nothing about. People’s flippant reactions usually have nothing to do with us, and everything to do with the other person. Even though you may be taking the brunt of the criticism, just know that their reaction most likely has little to do with you and your parenting skills.
- Give yourself a break. We are often our harshest critics. Again, you are doing the best you can. You are human, you are amazing, and your child is one of the greatest gifts you will ever receive. Your child loves you and knows that you love him (or her).
With love for you and your personal journey,